Welcome to my new look website! I’ll be posting blogs about my thoughts and opinions plus things happening in my life. Maybe even a few things that might interest you regularly. Now because we’ve given my website a freshen up, I thought as my first blog post I would re-post maybe the most important piece of news from my personal life this year, and maybe ever!
I’ll never be able thank all my family, friends, listeners and readers fully for the true love and support I’ve received since I first post this in February 2016. I truly hope that this will help you, may inspire you or even change your way of thinking in some way…
So, I recently got my first tattoo! Just Be You has become one of my motto’s in life over the past year.
I’ve realised that life is just so much better if you are yourself and don’t try to fit in or be someone or something just because you think that’s what you should be. I think that it’s so important to work out who you are. Peer pressure or parental expectations can cause you to act in a way that you feel you should. I’ve found out the hard way that it makes you very unhappy over time.
So, here’s the score. I have dated and been in love with girls. I have also been on dates with guys. This is me. It’s who I’ve been since I was a teenager. That’s the time I realised that something was “a bit different” about me. This was a very confusing time for me. I knew how I felt but didn’t know how to deal with these feelings. I also felt that it was wrong for me to feel the way I did. Add the peer pressure and the thought that I needed to be a certain way to fit in with what people expected of me and it created a big problem. By the time I was in my late teens, I’d finally accepted that I was probably bi-sexual.
Then, I met and fell in love with a few girls over a period of a few years. After time, my relationships with these girls ended and I soon realised a pattern was emerging. I was pushing people away and I didn’t know why. In 2014, I felt that I needed to do something about this. Otherwise, I would be unhappy forever. I set out to work out who I was.
After a year of soul searching, thinking and working things through, I realised how times had changed. Sexual orientation doesn’t matter. People should accept a person for the qualities that they have to offer and not for whether they are attracted to girls or guys. On the scale of things, I slowly realised that I was closer towards the gay end of the spectrum than I’d thought. From there, it was a journey of acceptance and realising that until I accept who I am, I will never be happy.
So, this is me. My plan is to just be me from now on. I hope that people will see that I am still the same person, but just 100% happier knowing who I am and being clearer about what it is that I want out of life. I’ve never felt a need to tell people about who I am but I do feel that if I do, it will make it easier for me to live my life and that’s why I’m writing this blog.
Thank you for reading and I hope I can count on your support. If there’s one thing you take from reading my words, please remember how important it is for your own happiness to Just Be You. Love people for who they are and not what they are.
If you’re experiencing similar problems or can relate to anything that I’ve written here, please talk to someone. Don’t bottle it up. Talking helps you to work things out. If you have nobody to talk to, drop me an email in total confidence on Lee@LeeJukes.com.